I know there is a lot of gyan on this from everyone you want or dont want to hear from. But I keep wondering why is it so difficult to be yourself? I think pretending is just the way of life here in our social system. It is kind of wired in us from childhood. It is like unless you dont pretend to be “Something” you are either looked down upon or your work will simply not get done. Unfortunately “pretending” just grows on you and at somepoint it just becomes part of your personality. You pay for it sometimes because you promise things that you cannot fulfill or forced to fulfill because you out of your habit just blabbered it out! I think it can be a difficult habit to get out off.
Would it not be just more simpler to be yourself? People will know the “real” you and most probably you will be in the right network of people that works for you and them.